How to Have a Sweet Home
Key Passage: Proverbs 18:21
Date: June 7, 2024
Turn your Bibles, if you would, to Proverbs chapter number 18. Please, Proverbs chapter number 18. And just for a little bit tonight, I don’t think will be very long. How to have a sweet home. How to have a sweet home.
For many, of course, that’s going to apply to your marriage and children and all that. For some, it may just be you. For some, it may apply to you and your close friends and relatives because you’re alone at this stage in life. But how to have a happy home. How to have a happy home tonight, Proverbs chapter number 18.
And I’d tell you the verse, but you wouldn’t listen to me anymore. So now we’re in trouble, folks, tonight. I tell you what we are.
Brother Frank, Miss Juan is not feeling good, so he’s alone tonight. And Brother Josh, Miss Beth’s not here. And so they’re both alone, and they’re setting together tonight. And they’ve got a plan. They’ve got a plan. First of all, Josh had like a little, there, his sweater, and he was calling it his pillow before church tonight.
And then they said, well, if we sat over in this section, Pastor always looks over because Miss Tammy’s setting over there. So they switch so I wouldn’t be watching them tonight. You know, sometimes you have to separate children that act up a lot, you know. I’m thankful there is a chair between them two. That’s a good thing tonight. I’m a little worried about that, you know, and they’re talking about setting together, but there’s a chair between them, so we’re all right tonight. That’s a good thing.
Brother Philip and Miss Michelle, would you keep them in line since they’re right in front of you there, would you please? That’d be good. Brother Josh, Brother Bill, excuse me, he’s ready to go over there too, so we’re good, we’re good. All right. And if y’all can’t handle them as Tabith’s got her songbook, she can just hit them over the head so she can get it all taken care of. Amen.
Proverbs chapter 18. And how to have a sweet home. How to have a sweet home waiting for. Trying to get everybody else in here. Anybody got a joke? I’m going to stand up and tell it before. While we’re waiting, no, I’m joking. Don’t do that. Don’t do that.
Let’s stand, if you would please, as we’ll read God’s word together. Proverbs chapter 18. And would you look down in verse number 21? Proverbs 18 and verse number 21 in God’s word.
And the Lord, he says here, he says, Death and life are in the power of the tongue. That’s pretty powerful right there. Death and life. We’re applying it to our homes tonight, our tongue. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. And they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. By the way, that could go either way, that last part.
But death and life, so vital. If you want to have a sweet home, friend, that little thing inside our mouth is such a key. Even for those that are alone, it’s key. Death and life are in the power of the tongue. You know, I actually talking about those that are alone. You actually can be saying words that really are just bringing death to yourself. It’s very real, very common.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue. How to have a sweet home just real quickly and that. Would you pray and ask that God would just kind of reset our heart a little bit in this area? Would you do that?
Father, Lord, we come. Lord, I could grow and learn and be better at this area. Lord, all of us can. So, Lord, would you use tonight to that end? Lord, give us sweet, sweet homes. Holy Spirit, we sure would like for you to just prevail in our homes. Lord, bless tonight, speak to our hearts, grow us for you. And Lord, we’ll thank you and brag on you and praise you for what you do, Lord. It’s in Jesus’ name we ask. Amen.
Thank you so much for standing. You may be seated. Your tongue in your home can either just suck the life out of your marriage, your home. Just bring death or it can be almost like a pump or it’s just pumping air or life into your home. Your tongue. It’s just vital. It can make it where your marriage is like a dried-up, wilting flower garden or a beautiful green, flourishing flower garden. Your tongue. Death in life are in the power of the tongue.
What can I do to help my home? Your tongue. Your tongue. I sure would like to have joy and happiness in my home. What can I do about that? Your tongue.
James chapter number three says your tongue is like on these huge ships. I worked at North Florida Shipyard for a while and we worked on ships that were in the St. John River. Some of those ships were huge ships and then some of these ships, figure what they call them, there were military ships, but the military would pack them full of tanks and armored car carriers and everything in the world and just pack them full. Many of them and there was a trouble spot in the world. They would travel these ships out to right off that coast a bit and just leave it there for six months or a year in case anything happened. They have just huge ships.
I mean, if you had to go down to the engine room, it’s going to take you a while to get there, just to walk across the deck, get over to the elevator and go down. It’s just huge massive ships. In fact, the St. John’s River, they didn’t have enough room to turn, so they have tugboats turn them around in the St. John River. It’s so big. But these ships, huge, massive things, were controlled by, in comparison, a very small rudder.
They could flood the front end of that boat, the ballast tanks, and they could empty the backs, and they could lift the back into that thing out. Some of those, they can actually change propeller out at sea. And you can see in comparison how small that rudder was, but that rudder would steer that huge ship, and it could turn that huge ship around. And the Bible, James chapter 3, says, that’s your tongue.
And you can steer your marriage into joy and happiness and sweetness and harmony and loving and affection and joy. Or you can use that tongue to steer your ship into hardness and just barely making it and dried up and shriveled and mad and always thinking bad thoughts about each other. Your tongue is key. It’s a rudder, and it can guide your home like nothing else.
Proverbs chapter number 12, if you would please. Proverbs chapter number 12. By the way, your tongue, you let God. The Bible says, no man can tame the tongue in the book of James over there, but the Lord can. You let the Lord guide your tongue.
Look at from Proverbs chapter number 12. Look in verse number 18, if you would please. Proverbs 12, verse number 18. You’re already there and probably will be in Proverbs a lot tonight. There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword. But the tongue of the wise is health.
That tongue, it can just cut and hurt and bring wounds and scars that last for years and years. Or that tongue sometimes used wisely can be used to really maybe cut out bad and grow and help someone. Death and life from the power of the tongue.
You know it’s just sad thing. Someone’s in the ICU and you go by there maybe every week or so for a while and you can see them the life slowly leaving them. And you know it’s just a matter of time and they’re kind of on their last leg and everybody knows that and it’s sad to watch that and if I’m not wise with my tongue I’m always using like a sword to cut. Sometimes you can see marriage is just slowly life is just slowly ebbing out of him. The tongue. You have a wise tongue. You bring life and you go to ICU and they’re getting better. You praise your Lord, they’re getting better. Your tongue.
By the way, if you don’t have a wise tongue in your marriage, you’re very limited in having a great marriage. Your tongue. So vital.
Husbands, your wife needs you to constantly affirm her, brag on her, praise her. She needs that in our day and time with all the putting down and comparisons. And it’s very easy for her wife to just feel inadequate and she needs her husband to constantly affirm her. You’re the one I want. I’m so glad I’m married to you. You mentioned the good things about her often. She needs that. It’s so important men, your tongue. Your tongue.
You ever see a couple walk along the mall or somewhere, and the guy’s about as ugly as homemade sin? Like, man, that guy’s got a face to make a freight train take that side road, you know? And yet he’s got a beautiful woman, but you say, how in the world did that ugly guy get that woman there? I guarantee you that man has a wise tongue. Not how you look. That’s the fellow saying, well, if you’re big and strong and all that, fooing all that, if you have a wise tongue, always constantly, just affirming her, loving one.
Well, it’s a sad thing when a man uses his tongue to browbeat his wife. What a sad thing. Tongue.
Wives, are you using your tongue to respect and to build and to brag on and say, I believe in you? Are you using your tongue to build him up? Are you trying to, well, you got a fat head? I sure can squeeze that head a little bit. And wife’s not as truth as you can. And you’re going to limit. You’re going to hurt their home. Your husband is going to be fighting against the tide, if you will. Now, he ought to do right no matter what, but he’s fighting against the tide. Our tongue is so vital.
Parents, can I say this? Hey, I know how it is with children. We, you know, been there. And, you know, someone else sees your children. They say, man, they’re such good. You know, they do this and they’re hard workers and they’re polite and they’re kind of. And you say, wait a second, are you talking about my kids? That’s because you see all the problems everybody else doesn’t see it. And the temptation is just to focus on the problems, problems, problems. And if I’m not careful with my tongue, I just beat them down where they feel like there’s no hope for me.
Parents, they need sometimes, yes, even with your tongue, saying, hey, God’s put some good things in you. God’s, God’s been so good. He’s giving you some gifts. David he said I will praise you I’m praise thee for I’m fearfully and wonderfully made marvelous all thy works and that my soul nor the right by your tongue.
Young people, your tongue. We don’t have a whole lot of young people in here tonight. We have a few young people. Your tongue. You can young people can really just drain a home like boom just a couple statements and just drain such the life of the home or young people could come in a home and just fake mom and dad and braggle mama dad and bring life to home. Your tongue. Sometimes the strongest tongue in a home, if parents aren’t wise, is a teenage tongue. And be so wise young people about your tongue in the home.
Let me just challenge our young people. Let me just challenge you. Would you take would you take a day, 24 hours, young people, and just watch what all your mom and dad does for you? Take 24 hours and maybe when you get up and see what all maybe they’re going to work. Well, think mom and dad’s going to work for me and mom. She’s so often getting breakfast ready. She bought your clothes. She’s getting everything ready. And just think about what all mom and dad’s out working and think all day long about what mom and dad is doing for you. And they prepare your meals and they get everything. They get your clothes. I mean, they got your toothbrush ready for you. All you have to do is, you know, use it. But I mean, all these things. And just think about what all mom and dad does for you.
And then after you take a whole day until you go to bed at nighttime, won’t you take a little while that night or the next night and just stop and say, Mom, Dad, I want to talk to you for a second. Now, you may have to tell Mom and Dad, set down because I don’t want you having a heart attack. And then just say, I’ve been watching you, and I see all you do around here. And I want to thank you. You just list off all the things mom and dad does for you. You can add life to your mom and dad. You can add life to the home or you can really hurt the home.
Now just real quickly, let’s give some ABCs, the ABCs of your tongue in the home of a good home. ABCs of a good home.
Number one, number one, appreciate those in your home. If you say, well, it’s just me. Well, appreciate those that are close to you. Appreciate them. Sometimes it’s sad, but those that are the most faithful at doing things for us, we begin to take it for granted. And the person that does the most for us are just faithful at it, we don’t even notice what all they’re doing because they’ve been doing it sometimes for years and years and it just became status quo. And we don’t even appreciate it. So stop. Appreciate it. Appreciate those that are in your home or those you’re close to you. Notice it. Get your mind off yourself and start thinking about all the others do for you specifically at home. Think about it. Appreciate it.
Hey, maybe in your prayer time instead of asking God, would you do this for my children? Would you do this? My wife? Would you change him? Would you make him do? Maybe just stop in your prayer time and thank you, God, for my wife. Thank you for my husband. Thank you for this quality you put in there. Thank you for this. Thank you for what all you’ve done. Give me a great wife. And just thanking for allow for the good things in your family. Appreciate it. Appreciate what you have.
I never forget years ago we’re sorting over down weekly lane in the neighborhood back in there and some homes and some houses there and a lady and I think it was a man with me I can’t remember all the details years ago but but a lady she invited me and whoever’s with me inside there and I can’t remember all the details but I remember this her husband had passed maybe a year or two before or before I don’t know how long and I remember she she was saved but she just she started crying and she said, I never knew how much I would miss just having a man around the house. She just, just, you got a picture to put up on the while. I think she mentioned that. And she mentioned, you know, just, just nighttime, just nice. But I just remember, it could be the other way. Us husband’s for our wife’s for sure. But she was just crying. She said, I thought I’d miss so much. Just having it. And I don’t have shame on me. Sometimes I don’t appreciate what I have. And it’s sad. Sometimes we have to lose something in order to appreciate it.
Man, let’s just appreciate what we have. Praise the Lord, you’ve been good to be. You heard about the couple. I went to the pastor and said, Pastor, we want to give, I think it was $200 for our, in honor of our son that was lost. I think it was in Vietnam War. And we want to give to this cause in honor of our son. And another family heard that. They had a good, healthy son, and they got convicted. And they went to the pastor a week or so later. We want to give a little bit more in honor of our living son because we don’t want to have to lose what we have to appreciate it. I just appreciate those in your home. Appreciate it.
Parents appreciate, yes, yes, your child is a diamond in the rough. There’s a diamond in there God’s got. Yes, your job. Lord does it all together, but he used his mom and dad greatly to chisel away at all that rough spots around that diamond that’s inside there. And yes, that’s your job in many, many ways, parents. But don’t forget about the diamond inside there and appreciate the good things God’s put it in.
Young people, I could tell you, just think about it. Young people, think about it. We went to the children’s home down in Murphy’s World. And there’s about 20, I’d say maybe 18 kids in the home there. Two of them is the Brown’s kids. But about 18 kids in there. I’m not sure what the number is right now at this moment. But 18, 20 kids in there, and something inside their home has deteriorated. They got a mom and dad that’s messed up at least temporarily to the point that the parents or the state sometimes or someone has said hey we’ve got to take that child outside of that home it’s so messed up i could have been born in the home like that i could have had a parent like that. I appreciate what you have.
Number one, we said the ABCs appreciate. Number two, number two, brag. Bragg, compliment if you will. Bragg on those in your home. Let it be just, let it just be a continual home of complimenting or praising. You know this whole world’s very apt at beating you down. I mean, you just don’t take long. You know, that’s just everywhere out there. They’ve had a home where they’re bragging on one another. Now be wise about it. But yes, people need that. They need that. Not on yourself, but on others. And you’re bragging them.
I remember years ago in the office, there was a couple of pre-barrelal counseling, and I was telling the fellow, I said, now look, man, if you always, always, always have a heartfelt compliment available for your wife and you’re always not just got just some off the cup but you mean it and it’s real it’s sincere and you’re giving her heartfelt compliments all the time I told her I said you won’t be able to get rid of her and the wife’s the fiance at that time she said that’s why I’m here today you’re exactly right that’s why I’m here today. And praise Lord, they’re still married today. But they’re just always having words of adoration, if you will, or compliments, praise for one another.
Hey, do this. Take your challenge. One afternoon when you’re heading home from work or where it is, say, you know, I’m going to go home. Maybe you and your spouse are going to go out to eat that afternoon, you and your wife, and say, you know what, from the time we leave the house to the time we get in the restaurant, I’m going to give her 10 compliments. And just challenge yourself. I’m going to give her 10 compliments. I’m not going to tell what’s going on. I’m just going to try to slip them in there. And then after we eat, from the time we eat to the time we get home, I’m going to give her 10 more compliments and just find out how the atmosphere sweetens up a little bit. Joke. I’m not talking about joking. I’m talking about sincere praise and compliments. That’s what I’m talking about. Men, you’ll do more to get a hard cold maybe somewhat submissive habit of cold hard one or a sweet loving wife with your words.
Would you look over to Ephesians 5 briefly here? Ephesians 5. You’ve seen this thing so many times. I want to look at it again. Ephesians chapter 5. Ephesians chapter 5. You’ll know the verses. Ephesians 5. 25. If you’re looking at verse number 25, when you’re there, would you say, praise the Lord. Praise you. Good to, Ephesians 5. Look at verse number 25 if you would please. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify it and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the, what’s the next word?
Now, husband, if you notice that, it’s talking about Christ’s love, and it’s talking about his word. The association is, fellow, you loving your wife with your words. And notice what it said, that he might sanctify and cleanse him. You’re not going to get her to be the wife you want her to be by browbeating her. You’re going to get her to come closer to being that by loving her like she is with your words, and then she’s going to want to please you, and that’ll come closer to having her sanctified and cleanse if you will by loving her with your words. What’s the next part? That he might present it to himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing. Your words, by the way, quit trying to make her in once you want her in to be in just love her like she is. Christ does that to us. Don’t go about trying to correct her just love her like she is. Usually she knows what you want anyway.
You just love her like she is. And so say, you know, I want to please that guy. Because you’re loving her. She needs to be cherished, appreciated. How do you do that? Your words is the biggest way. Just with your words, you’re cherishing her.
By the way, fellas, we talked about this morning when you don’t deal truly, especially with your words, you are taking away the very foundation of a good marriage because in your words lose their value to her. So critical, just with your words. It’s critical. It’s sad to see a man just trying to browbeat his wife at his tongue. Sad. Just lover, lover with your words.
Now would you look over in Proverbs 21? Just briefly here, Proverbs 21. Husbands, you can breathe a little bit. Okay, praise the Lord. He’s leaving us alone for a second. Look at that. Brother Josh and Brother Frank has stayed awake so far. Wow. I am impressed. I’ll tell you what. We’re going to have to tell Ms. Beth and Ms. Wanda, phew, that’s pretty good.
Proverbs 21, would you look at out in verse number 29? Proverbs 21 and verse number 9. Proverbs 21, 9, if you would please. Proverbs 21, 9. It is better to dwell in a corner of the house top. Now kind of pause for just a timeout for just a second there. You say, why is the Bible talking about the corner of the house top? I think what he has to allude to here a little bit. Oh, there used to be, you know, where Woodfin Funeral Home is. How many know Woodfin Funeral Home in Smyrna? The one in Smyrna there. Used to be that feel right to the right of it if you’re facing it. There used to be an old house there. Ms. Nola Bell lived there. She used to come to their church. How many even know Nola Bell? Anybody here knows Nola Bell?
A couple of these folks have been around here for ever, Miss Nola Bell. She’s in heaven now, dear saints, she used to drive an old station wagon to church. And we were on Murphysboro Road, the church was at the time, and she would drive, we were in Laverne at the time, she would drive down Murphysburg Road. I think those couple miles, there’s two lanes. I think she took up both lanes driving. She come to church and there would be four angels on each corner of her car. Praise the Lord, she made it to church. We made her make it to church. She is faithful, a dear sweet lady. And she owned that house. She lived there for just years and years and years. That house used to be there. And at the top of her house in the corner, there was a little apartment. And she rented that out for years. And I think this verse has a little bit to do with that.
It’d be better to live in a little apartment in the top corner of somebody’s house, if you will. It’s better to dwell in the corner of the house top than with a brawling woman in a white house. You got a big old house, big old fancy ride, broad. Little brawling woman.
Look down in verse number 19, if he would please, verse number 19, Proverbs 21:19. It is better to dwell in the wilderness. Time out for just a second. I think what he has to do here a little bit of this wilderness. You’re out on your own, whether you be single maybe. You’re talking about that? Or you’re just off on a hunting trip or you’re out as a shepherd out in the field and the wilderness away from home and all that. But it’s badder to be in the wilderness than with a contentious and angry woman. By the way, it doesn’t necessarily mean that the wife is necessarily angry contentious towards the husband. That may be the case. But she’s just angry. You’re just angry. Brawling.
One more verse was look at verse number, excuse me, chapter number 19, chapter number 19. Proverbs 19. And we look at verse number 13. Proverbs 19 verse number 13. A foolish son is the calamity of his father and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
You’ve heard of prisoner of war camps where they have, you know, a man’s trapped down and they have that water just dripping. Brother Frank was in Vietnam War and he was a prisoner of war for two years and that’s why they did that to him. That’s why he lost his hair and that’s why he’s a little. Oh, I’m joking with Brother Frank. They’re going to the Catholic church next week after this. No, they’re not. But that’s a little bit of comparison.
And when you just go for days on end, just brawling or contentious and angry, you go pretty close to making your husband be a hard mean man sometimes. Or he wants to go get in the wilderness. He just wants to get away. Makes a pretty tough friend to do like it says in First Peter 3, dwell with her according to knowledge, because he don’t want to dwell there just contiguous. Or it weakens a man. And that man, he just becomes a mouse and you just run over him. And here’s the sad part. You have a mouse for a husband. You won’t get a lot of security, and that’s what you want. And you lost out on that because you’re just running him over.
Our tongue is so vital. It’s so very important. I think these first verses are funny. Betty Gammon. How do you remember Betty Gammon? You’re some of these old folks here. Anybody remember Betty Gammon, a couple of you? The Dempsey’s, and Mom and Betty Gammon, her husband had already passed when I met her, just a sweet lady. And she came to her church for years, years to have moved over here. She’s just too far. A preacher he knows God’s will, but I can’t go that far so on. But Betty Gammon, she told me a story in time. She said her husband was in a… a little scrabble there fussed with each other you know and fight i don’t know how bad i think she said only four dishes were broke at that point i’m not sure but she said they were in a fuss and uh she said my husband walked out of the house and he and he walked out to the shed and whatnot and he got a ladder and she said well in the world of my husband she says true story and she got the ladder and she and he went and he put it up on the edge of the house and he started climbing up the ladder. And she said, what the world are you doing out there? We’re going to fussy. You’re climbing up the ladder. And he said, well, the Bible says it’s better to dwell in the corner of the house top. And he said, I’m climbing up the house top. And she said they just started laughing. And they made up. But there’s some truth to you.
So letter A, just appreciate what you have. Let her be braggle on them, braggle on them, braggle. Be wise. Parents, when you discipline your children, don’t call you, stupid idiot. Don’t do that. You’re the worst kid in the world. Don’t do that. Not to anything. Don’t do that. So you’re a good kid. You’ve got a lot of good qualities. God’s put in you. But this line, we’re going to stop that. You single out that one thing. And you deal with that one thing. Be wise with your tongue. Be wise with your tongue. You don’t want to have a sword come down and have been having a wound up for the rest of life. You want to be wise with your tongue where you’re bringing help to them. So very important.
Young people, young people, are you a giver or a taker in your home? Very much of that is with your tongue. Give her or taking your home. Your tongue.
Let her see. Let her see. Contemplate the good in your home. I’ve been alluding to it all throughout the thing. Just thinking about that. Thinking about the good in your home. You’re not going to have a tongue that says good things and compliments if you spend all day long dwelling on the bad things about them. And Satan will do his best to get you thinking about the bad of your spouse. He’ll work at it.
By the way, you know Philippians 4:8, what sort of things are true, honest, just, pure, love, a good report. If there be any virtue, if there be any praise, think on these things. You’re thinking. It affects what? At the abundance of the heart, that’s the really center of your thinking. At the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaking. What are you thinking on all day long?
If you let Satan get you thinking on all the bad things of your kids or your wife or your husband, you’re going to have a tough time being wise with your words. And it goes back to our thinking. It’s going to be hard for you to appreciate. You’re always dwelling on the bad. Satan works at that. He works overtime on that. Satan can put faults in your mind. We mentioned it this morning, Anonis and Sapphire, and that verse, Acts 5:3. It says, why has Satan filled thine heart to lie to the Holy Ghost? Satan can put false in your mind. It’s very important that you bring that to captivity. If Satan will have you thinking about all the bad things. By the way, there’ll be about a thousand good things about your spouse and maybe four negative things and Satan will get you thinking about those four negative things. He’ll do his best.
Look over, if you would, the Lamentations, please. Lamentations chapter 3. This is amazing truth here. There’s just your thoughts, how important they are. Lamentation chapter number 3, if you would, please. Lamentations 3. And would you look in verse number 18? Lamentations 3 and verse number 18. When you find that, would you say amen, please? Lamentations 3. Would you look in verse number 18, Lamentations 3:18? And I said, my strength and my hope is perished from the Lord.
You call that borderline depression. If not, he’s just, he’s just, I can’t get up in the morning. I got no more strength. I have no hope. What’s going on? Remembering, why is he there? Remembering mine affliction and my misery, the wormwood and the gall. That’s what he’s thinking about. He’s remembering all this. My soul hath them still in remembrance and is humbled in me.
Now watch this here. Everything changes, not the circumstances, but his emotions, his feelings changes because of verse number 21. This I recall to my mind. Therefore have I hope. Jerusalem is still laid in waste, there’s still dead bodies, there’s still smoke coming up from the rubbish and the trash, and it’s still the same circumstances, but he changes what he thinks about and watch what happens in the next verse. Verse number 22, it is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed. He said, he would be all the way gone if it wasn’t for the mercies of God. He’s changing. It is the Lord’s mercy that we’re consumed, not because his compassion’s fail not. They are new every morning. Great is thy faithfulness. The Lord is my portion, saith my soul. Therefore will I hope in him.
Now he got some hope all of a sudden. Why? Because he changed his thinking. And you say there’s no way we have a good marriage. Friend, it starts with the changing of your thinking. We can’t have a sweet, wonderful home. It starts with your thinking. I like to have sweet words in harmony and joy and a pleasant marriage. It starts with you allowing God to change your thinking.
You contemplate the good. Satan will do his best. He’ll try to just get your mind just consumed with those couple bad things that everybody in the world has. By the way, don’t look at there’s too much because you’ve got a bunch of them yourself. Contemplate the good, work at it. Get your mind on those good things.
Now here’s what happens. Here’s what happens. You get your mind thinking on the good things about those in your house. I’m talking about a normal marriage here. And you work at that, and then you start talking about it. Glad I’m married to you. You’re so good at this. That looks good on and on and on. And the more you talk about it, you know what happens? You hear yourself. And you can’t help but think the things you’ve seen and heard. Actually, Emperor 4 talks about that. And the more you hear it, the more you think about it.
And the more you think about it, by the way, not just thinking, you start verbalizing with your tongue. And you verbalize it with your tongue and you start hearing it. And you just get in the habit of talking about the good things. We were on the sewing bus yesterday, and I was off the bus talking with someone, and several people were texting and called and whatnot, and I couldn’t get at the moment. And I hop back on the bus, and it’s a little bit later, a little bit later on one of the men, he had to get up, and he meant to text his wife. And he texted me, he said, morning, love you. Got back on the bus and he texted Texas. Whoa, what about this right here? Problem about husband and wife got a good system thinking good thoughts and talking good thoughts. And the more you’re talking, the more you hear it. And the more you hear it, the more it gets inside. And the more it gets inside you think and you dwell on, you talk about it. And before all, God gives you a sweet. Didn’t happen. Didn’t happen. Your tongue. Death and life are in the power.
Would you buy your heads and close your eyes, please? Our heads about our eyes are closed. Maybe you’re hearing you just say, I like to be better at appreciating and bragging and contemplating on the good things in the home. Maybe you say, well, my spouse has been gone. They’ve been in heaven for a while. Would you appreciate the things God’s given you? Would you brag on the people the things God’s give? Would you contemplate the good things? It’s so important. Having a happy, sweet home.
Preacher, I like to grow on that. I like to get better at that. Appreciate bragging and complimenting the good in my home. God spoke to my heart about that. That’s you tonight, just lift you in a preacher. That’s me. That’s me. I like to work at this day. Me too. Me too. Me too. I’d like to be so much better. God bless you. God bless you. Thank you. Let the Lord speak to your heart.
I think it would be a good night during an invitation, maybe just for families, just to pray together. It’s sweet thing to see a family at an altar, husband and wife, the kids. Maybe you just want to come on your own, but just people, families praying you is a wonderful thing and just just just praying together thanking God together a great night for that for Lord to let you do that big great night for us to do that would you please stand would you please stand we’re going to have a word of prayer let’s just be obedient let’s just let’s just Lord maybe we need to put our tongue on the altar would you do that Father thank you for your goodness to us. Help our homes, Lord, to be sweet. Lord, help our homes to have your spirit, your presence, your praise, your joy in them. Bless our marriages, our children. Lord, put your hand in our homes. Bless your invitation, make it sweet for your people, Lord. And we’ll thank you for what you do, Lord. Jesus, then we pray. Amen.
Would you come? You spend some time with Lord. Thank you, Lord. Thank you, Lord. Stories like this, let me turn my little pal mic back on. Either one you want to use. But I’ve heard several different stories, different angles, different people. Where someone, a child grew up in a rough home, maybe a bad neighborhood, a lot, didn’t have, you know, a right kind of a home, maybe a home just fuss and fighting and drugs and everything else. And that young person had the privilege of being in a sweet, godly home just to touch sometimes. But they were in that home for a night or maybe just afternoon or a while, and that child seen what a sweet, godly home is supposed to be like, never got out of that child.
And that child for years remembered, that’s what a good home supposed to be like. And they had a desire for that. And they said, I would like to have a home like that. And years later, when they were grown and had a good marriage, they would remember back and say, you know what, God kind of planted in my heart a desire to have a sweet, godly home at such and such house years ago. Here’s my fault. If they were in your home, my home, where they catch that vision, I hope my home and your home, I hope our homes would be a home where they could just spend a little time in there and they could get a fragrance of God working in the home. And they say, that’s what I want one day. And amen.
Original File: How to Have a Sweet Home - Pastor Paul Chisgar - Sunday PM 03272022